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Cathryn Cade: BDSM on the Light Side (Contest)
Tuesday, October 1st, 2013

Hello, all you delicious Delilah D fans. Love her writing, and love the chance to chat with her readers. Waving—thanks for the invite, Ms D!

I’ve been having a blast this summer and fall, writing a hot, hot, hot new series for Samhain. Club 3 debuted October 1st, which I love. October just seems like the month to get naughty, you know? With Halloween coming, my Bad Girl starts twitching her tail and wanting to get in T.R.O.U.B.L.E.

So what’s the worst kind of trouble a girl can get into? Well … does mouthing off to not one, not two, but three doms in her first night at a new club count? Yikes! Think that would do it. The only question will be how hard is that spanking gonna be?

I love reading BDSM and D/s. But for me, it’s not about the physical, it’s about the emotional. In real life I’m shy, and passed up a few guys in whom I was genuinely interested because I could not get my stupid tongue untangled long enough to chat with them.  God blessed me (and he was no doubt rolling his eyes by then) by plunking my handsome husband before me at a big dance club in Montana when I’d had just enough alcohol to loosen up and actually act out my extreme interest in this hunk. Through two handsome sons, several moves and life crises, we are still together. Love my alpha male!

ccShesAllIn-R 2Daisy Charles, the heroine of She’s All In is the girl I always wished I was, but wasn’t. She has the spunk to walk up to a big, handsome weightlifter that she knows is a dom, and ask him for a date.

He turns her down. Yeah, there’s a crusher. But Daisy, being a tough woman who’s gone through hell in her own way, jumps right back up and agrees to try things his way first. By accepting an invitation to his BDSM club.

Now, I’m going to slam on the brakes, and tell you WHY I wrote this series. I love BDSM, but  … many of the stories I read include elements that are not right for me. Isn’t that the way with erotic romance? When a story is intense, passionate, raw and delves into the darker side of the human psyche, there are bound to be scenes, or even just lines that make us uncomfortable.  Sometimes in a fun, squirm-in-our-seats way and sometimes in an I-can’t-handle-this way.

That’s how I am with the darker BDSM. I fully support those who love that. I don’t. What I do love about BDSM romance  is the emotional risk, the need to connect on a deep level, the trust that develops. The capacity for ecstasy when it works, and for stark emotional pain when that trust is broken, sometimes unwittingly.

So that’s what I write. Light BDSM. I tried the term ‘vanilla BDSM’, lol, but just confused the heck out of many readers. Yeah, I see you wrinkling your cute little nose at the computer. You too, huh?

If you’d love to try a romance with plenty of heat, a few chuckles and some heartbreak, leave a comment and let us know what you enjoy about reading D/s and BDSM. I’ll give away a copy of the ebook, SHE’S ALL IN here. PLEASE leave your email addy so I can find you!

For an excerpt, visit  Samhain Publishing. And stop by My Website for more chances to win. You might also win my Naughty Club 3 Halloween Basket!

Best,

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30 comments to “Cathryn Cade: BDSM on the Light Side (Contest)”

  1. Toni Whitmire
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 7:55 am · Link

    I like how both sexes can be dom and sub bibbiesparks@yahoo.com.



  2. Amy Stansbury
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 7:59 am · Link

    This is very intriguing. I don’t think I have ever really specifically looked for a “light bdsm” book..I generally have just skipped over parts in other books when it got a little heavy handed. I am going to have to look into this series :)



  3. Michelle V
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 8:03 am · Link

    I agree and like the idea of the light BDSM. She’s All In looks great and I’m adding it to my wish list! :)

    michellevasquez2001 @ yahoo . com



  4. Michelle - Snarky Mom
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 8:18 am · Link

    I’m with you – I get really uncomfortable with hardcore BDSM, especially if it is in the vein of humiliation or sadism. It can just totally ruin the whole book for me. Your new release sounds awesome & will be in my TBR… and I’ve also heard BDSM-lite called “sugar kink” LOL!



  5. Michelle - Snarky Mom
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 8:20 am · Link

    Oops – and as usual, I forgot the email addy! michelle at oxrider dot com



  6. CJ
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 8:21 am · Link

    I like the caring that needs to be for a good bdsm read.

    CJ



  7. Gail Siuba
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 8:40 am · Link

    The first BDSM, D/s book I read involved three men and a women who was lost in a world where the norm was multiple partners. I was taken by surprise at how the woman was the focus. The emotions on both sides was compelling and really drew me to the story. The women was shy & ostracized in her own world because of her looks and lack of confidence. Her transformation & the love she found was compelling. I’ve since read many BDSM, D/s books and even though they all differ in some ways, I find the emotional connection that develops is the attraction for me and the HEA. :wink:

    gsryley(at)gmail(dot)com



  8. Anne
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 9:54 am · Link

    I totally understand you when you say vanilla BDSM, that’s more what I enjoy too. I just can’t wrap my head around where the characters are in the few more extreme BDSM reads I’ve read. For any type of read, it’s primarily all about the connection between the two (or more) main characters for me. If it’s not there, no matter what’s happening, it won’t be erotic/romantic for me.

    acm05atjuno.com



  9. Michelle (MsRomanticReads)
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 10:05 am · Link

    Hello Cathryn,

    I loved your story about how tongue-tied you used to be when it came to taking a chance and meeting someone. But everything happens for a reason, and it seems you found exactly who you were meant to be with. I love BDSM stories for similar reasons as you do. I love the frank, open honesty that has to be present for two people to engage in that kind of trust exchange. Most BDSM stories that I read about, the heroines all have the self-preservation thing going on, not wanting to be open for fear of losing their hearts or being rejected, but the Doms all seem to draw them out of their shells and show them that speaking clearly about their wants and needs far surpasses their usual fears. I’ve read both the light BDSM stories and the more kinky ones, but they all have something very satisfying about them. I will definitely be adding your Club 3 Series to my reading list! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for the giveaway.

    msromanticreads(at)gmail(dot)com



  10. CJ
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 11:07 am · Link

    Went to Amazon to check Cathryn Cade out and found a free read, Heart of Stone. LOVED it and now I’m hooked and have to purchase Tyger Tyger Burning Bright. Grin, thanks for the free read.

    CJ



  11. Lisa Z
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 11:15 am · Link

    I love the trust involved in such a relationship. I love how much more depth of meaning there seems to be in a collaring than a “vanilla” marriage, not that there is none in a vanilla marriage. I love how the Dom/Domme is able to slowly bring out the best in their submissive. I just love the dynamic between the two (or more) main characters whether their in a BDSM or vanilla relationship.

    lzemke@wi.rr.com



  12. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 11:21 am · Link

    Ladies, thanks so much for stopping by!

    I’m blown away by your heart-felt responses. So glad to know I’m not alone in searching for the emotional connection in any romance, no matter how hawt.

    Tony, Club 3 has one femme domme who is a recurring character–she was fun to write, altho she has no ‘scenes’ in the books.

    Amy, skipping harsh scenes is ‘zactly why I wrote Club 3. 8-O

    Michelle, thanks for the add!

    Michelle V, ‘sugar kink’ lol, love it! :-P

    CJ, I sooo agree! BDSM must have intense caring or it’s empty. And thanks for finding Heart of Stone and Tyger–hope you love ’em. :wink:

    Gail, yikes on being thrown onto a planet where ménage is the norm. Blush-worthy, oui? :oops: Book 3 of this series is a ménage love story … new for me. As usual I am totally in love with my hero, only this time there are two of them!

    Anne, so glad to meet a kindred spirit!

    Michelle, that’s what good BDSM is all about for us readers, isn’t it? Jumping into the skin of a heroine who is pulled out of her self-imposed isolation in some raw, real way.

    best,
    Cathryn



  13. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 11:22 am · Link

    Lisa Z,

    Well said!! I think you’ve captured perfectly what we want from a D/s or BDSM story. Thanks!



  14. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 11:29 am · Link

    BTW, here’s the link to my Free Read so you don’t have to go hunt it down.

    http://amzn.to/14sL67L

    best,
    Cathryn



  15. Becky H
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 1:08 pm · Link

    Hi Cathryn! *waves* I am such a fan. If I haven’t already read it, everything you have written is on my TBR list, including this one. I have been waiting or it. *doing happy dance* How do I like my BDSM? Any way I can get it. As Ms Romanticread says, (don’t you just love her?) the emotional connections are just so much more than can be found else where. I know that the first ones I read opened my eyes to many things about myself that I hadn’t figured out yet. The Vanilla world just does not talk about or even practice the trust and communication that is required in a healthy D/s experience. That is why I like BDSM, no matter how light or dark, the trust, communication and ultimate connection that happens between the partners. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us and I look forward to reading She’s All In.



  16. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 1:22 pm · Link

    Becky H,

    Wow. Thanks. You just officially made my day! Which was already pretty fun, thanks to the DD crowd. :-P

    I love your point that these stories delve deeper into the trust and connection required. That’s what makes them so addictive, right?

    best,
    Cathryn



  17. ronnie cornett
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 1:44 pm · Link

    woo hoo…got my free read…love BDSM romance!!! Now going to check out She’s All In….Thanks for the free read :wink:



  18. Michelle - Snarky Mom
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 2:38 pm · Link

    Cathryn – thank you so much for sharing your (free) read with us!



  19. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 3:07 pm · Link

    Ronnie and Michelle,

    Glad you snagged the free read! Enjoy!

    Cathryn



  20. Michelle (MsRomanticReads)
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 4:49 pm · Link

    Yes, you’re absolutely right, Cathryn. A positive side effect of getting pulled out of self-isolation is that the heroines in the story also gain self-confidence, and a voice. They also come to realize that submitting to their desires or to a Dom, doesn’t mean they’re giving up their freedom. I always anticipate that moment when the light bulb goes off :-D

    Thank you also for the free read! I’ll have to share that.



  21. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 5:00 pm · Link

    Michelle,

    Right! what you said!

    I still remember my first BDSM read, a wonderful story by Cherise Sinclair. I thought, wow, :oops: this chick is going down big time, but then realized she was choosing to be fulfilled in her very own way. And of course with an alpha male (or two), mrrrowwwl!

    best,
    Cathryn



  22. Michelle (MsRomanticReads)
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 7:53 pm · Link

    Oh my gosh, I love Cherise Sinclair. My first taste of BDSM was thebookthatshallnotbenamed. After that I did some searching and came across Cherise Sinclair. Now I own every single one of her books :lol: I’m a little surprised you don’t find her stories a little too …. kinky. But she sure knows how to write emotional journeys so well. She also never regurgitates a scene. They’re all uniquely different and fresh.



  23. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 8:24 pm · Link

    Michelle,

    A writer that is that good at the emotional pull and the adrenaline rush will grab me every time.

    I particularly love her shifters. So hawt and romantic.

    She inspires me to write fearlessly. And I have to thank authors who do that. Like Delilah Devlin, yes?

    Cathryn



  24. Michelle (MsRomanticReads)
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 9:15 pm · Link

    *nods enthusiastically* Yes! I’ve only read Delilah’s contributions to various anthologies that I’ve been reviewing, but she always comes out on top. That says a lot, yes? :-D



  25. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 9:19 pm · Link

    Indeed!

    And it’s so great that she puts together the anthologies, to intro readers to new writers, too.

    Cathryn



  26. Michelle (MsRomanticReads)
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 9:30 pm · Link

    That’s how I met my most recent friends, through the Smokin Hot Firemen Anthology. That is exactly the reason why I love these books, and that one had 17(!) stories. Never seen anything quite like it.



  27. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 9:32 pm · Link

    Hmmm, I think I feel the need to put out a fire.

    better hop over to Amazon.

    Cathryn



  28. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 1st, 2013 at 11:47 pm · Link

    I’ll be back tomorrow to pick a winner!

    Thanks to Delilah and friends for hosting me and chatting.

    I’m feeling good, as She’s All In has coasted up the charts to #3 overall at Samhain, and #1 in contemporary romance.

    Good night,
    Cathryn



  29. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 2nd, 2013 at 9:23 pm · Link

    Thanks again to Delilah for hosting me.

    This new release has been so much fun, the best ever! The book is resonating with readers, and that’s everything for a writer.

    The Random Flufferator has tossed your names all about and chosen … Michelle – Snarky Mom, michelle at oxrider dot com
    and Anne, acm05atjuno.com to receive a FREE copy of ‘She’s All In’.

    best to all,
    Cathryn
    Cathryn Cade
    Best-selling author of sci fi romance
    RT 4.5 Stars and Night Owl Reviews TOP PICK
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  30. Cathryn Cade
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      · October 2nd, 2013 at 9:29 pm · Link

    Anne,

    I’m unable to get your email addy to work, so hope you contact me!

    cathryncade@cathryncade.com