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A Question…
Tuesday, September 9th, 2014

I love asking all manner of questions. Does that make me nosy? I think I’m just eternally curious. People are so different. Some folks think that everyone despite culture, religion, etc., is the same inside, want the same things deep down. I’ve lived all over the world, and I disagree. We don’t think alike. We don’t value the same things. Many of us love our families, long for a sense of community, but what that means is very individual or very much affected by our upbringing. And how that manifests in behaviors? Whew. Very, very different. You only have to watch the news to know that.

So, I live on a hilltop, my house surrounded by forest. I’m physically isolated (something I love). Foxes, raccoons (some of whom I count as cautious friends), deer, share the pond in my back “yard” with my horses. My daughter lives across the highway. If we stockpiled food and weapons, we’d be typical preppers, because we keep to ourselves mostly, trust only our family, for the most part. But we aren’t gun fanatics, don’t hunt, think most people should have real licenses to own weapons or have children or animals… We have acquaintances, but who do you really know? I know my closest family—quirks and mental disorders (Yeah, I’m not excluding myself! Writers are closet schizophrenics—the voices, you know). If one falls ill, we rally. When one pisses us off, we work through it rather than cut them out—because you have to or you’ll wind up with no one.

I do have a question in all of this ramble. And I hope I didn’t come across as morose, because I am very far from either. Most who know me think I’m weirdly happy most of the time (I use the word weird a lot, only because I recognize that quality in myself and embrace it 🙂 ).  So the question(s)…

Do you think people are the same at their core? Do I have it all wrong? Who are you closest to? Who do you know you can count on? What weirdness do you claim?

5 comments to “A Question…”

  1. Charlotte Copper
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      · September 9th, 2014 at 9:03 am · Link

    Are people the same at their core…NOT AT ALL! Are we all blood, bones & brains? yes (well, even that last one I might debate)…but as soon as you get past the physical, I think we are truly as individual as snowflakes.
    I am closest to my mother & my daughter, and those would be the people I would count on first. After that would be one or two close friends and my husband – having been thru one divorce, I always bear that thread of caution. (Maybe that’s my weirdness?)



  2. Lisa J
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      · September 9th, 2014 at 9:41 am · Link

    No, people are not all the same. Even in my own family, my beliefs and behavior are not the same as my sister or my brothers. It’s part of being individuals.

    I am closest to my family. My mom and I speak at least once a day on the phone and I see her every weekend. I am happy to count her as one of my best friends. My mom is one of nine children and she was brought up, and brought us up, to know that family is there for family. We may fight and argue amongst ourselves, but when push comes to shove, we will move heaven and earth for each other.



  3. Gail Siuba
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      · September 9th, 2014 at 11:13 am · Link

    Do people all share the same core? No, not at all.
    Humans are the one species that have the capacity to be passionate, kind & loving, but seem to fall short over & over.
    All people are products of upbringing & environment. Each person has different factors shaping their lives in the way they think, dress & live. No two people will react the same way to a given situation, they may react in similar manners, but I think for different reasons that shaped them from birth. I agree with Charlotte’s comment that we are truly as individual as snowflake.
    That being said, I’m a social being, but the people I hold closet are my immediate family. I have close friends, but few are trusted as family. I find it hard to expose myself & trust they won’t find my fine nuances as weird. 😉



  4. Shirley Long
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      · September 9th, 2014 at 12:02 pm · Link

    No, people are DEFINITELY not the same, even members of the same family. My parents are gone, but I have 1 brother and 1 sister close enough to see when I feel the need. My brother and I are very close and talk at least once a week. My sister?? Only talk to her when she wants something. I love her cause she’s my sister, but I do not like her. Here’s a woman that’s been married 4, count ’em, 4 times and she tries to tell me how I should conduct my marriage. By the way, I have been married to the same man for 44 years. Unbelievable huh?
    I trust very few people. The only person in the world I truly trust is my husband. I know he is there for me and on my side and will have my back no matter what. Next, I’d have to say my little brother. He’s there if I need him for anything, anytime.
    We also live out in the country, on a dirt road, in the middle of 10 acres. And we keep to ourselves. Many, many days go by when we don’t see another living soul except each other. And that is find and dandy with us. With people comes problems, drama, angst and all that other stuff. With just us, it’s happy and peaceful.
    What’s that old saying, the only person you can really count on is yourself. Sounds harsh, but most truths are.



  5. Mary Preston
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      · September 10th, 2014 at 3:37 am · Link

    No, I do not think that people are the same at the core. Far from it. If they were the world would not be in such turmoil all the time.

    Like you though, I do love to live in “splendid isolation”. (Not sure who said that first.) There are days when I would happily dig a moat around my castle & fill it with crocodiles – maybe not like you at all then.