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Guest Blogger: Gale Stanley
Friday, June 24th, 2011

Aural Sex

In my stories, sex is a vital component and sometimes tricky to pull off effectively. So many things go into writing a sex scene, and using all five senses is crucial. Touch, taste, sight, and smell are all important, but sometimes dialogue is overlooked. The physicality of the encounter might seem paramount, but without the emotion and intimacy of dialogue, it all becomes mechanical and the scene falls flat.

Good dialogue during lovemaking can make a sexy scene even hotter. If the characters are making love for the first time, their dialogue can reveal a turning point in their relationship, a time of new understanding or greater intimacy.

Whatever they say has to be consistent with their personalities. How would they express themselves in bed? Are they shy about talking dirty? How graphic would they be with each other? Would they use explicit language or sensual words?

How the words are spoken can be just as important as what is said. If a character is bilingual, he or she will often revert to their native tongue during sex. Using a few foreign phrases can bring a lot of emotion into a scene. In my short story, Love Bytes, Rhys, a Welshman, whispers to Ben in his mother tongue when they make love. Ben has no idea what Rhys is saying, but it sounds romantic and makes him feel sexy.

Sometimes less is more. Words aren’t always needed. A gasp, a moan, or a growl can be enough to show what the characters are feeling. And using inner dialogue can reveal feelings and emotions that a character can’t vocalize. In the end, it’s all about the characters, and making sure the reader will connect and care about them.

Thanks for reading and a big thanks to Delilah for having me today.


Erotic Romance Author, Gale Stanley writes for SirenBookstrand and Silver Publishing. She lives in the City of Brotherly Love, with hubby and two talkative Tonkinese cats, Buffy and Spike. Her kids are grown and the grandkids are waiting for a book they can read. Her latest book One Night in Bangkok was released June 4 from Silver Publishing.

The temperature in Bangkok is a humid ninety degrees but things are about to get a lot hotter. David Elliot is in Thailand on business but when he meets Kai, the younger man turns his world upside down. It was never meant to be anything more than a pleasant diversion but can he walk away when itโ€™s over?

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11 comments to “Guest Blogger: Gale Stanley”

  1. Gale Stanley
    · June 24th, 2011 at 7:38 am · Link

    Hi DD, thanks for having me today!

  2. Lindsay K
    · June 24th, 2011 at 9:04 am · Link

    Great thoughts, Gale! A five paragraph love scene can take days to get right, and I’m not sure how many people realize that. LOL

  3. Joyce Palmer
    · June 24th, 2011 at 9:48 am · Link

    Love the post, Gale. I find sex scenes exhausting, but at the same time when they’re complete and just right, invigorating. Almost like you’ve placed yourself in the scene physically. It never fails that I get interrupted and the mood goes cold, requiring me, the writer, to warm up all over again. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Another element I find to enhance sex scenes is to write in the POV character observing the facial, physical reaction of the partner. Sexy, hot!

  4. Calisa Rhose
    · June 24th, 2011 at 10:22 am · Link

    Great topic Gale. I still have trouble just writing the scene so I like reading ways to improve on that area of the craft. Thanks to Delilah for letting you share! :mrgreen:

  5. tammy ramey
    · June 24th, 2011 at 11:14 am · Link

    Hi Gale,
    thanks for the great post. i am just starting in my writing and i am having a hard time getting the love scenes right, this will help. thanks.

  6. Gale Stanley
    · June 24th, 2011 at 11:52 am · Link

    Thanks for reading! Writing in the character’s POV is a great way to emotion into a scene. I learned that in a workshop. Just write in first person, then change to third. I do it all the time, not just with sex scenes.

  7. Becky W
    · June 24th, 2011 at 2:17 pm · Link

    Great post Gale! Thanks for sharing your advice on writing sex scenes. I’ve been thinking about writing, but haven’t decided on what type I want to do. I’ve been thinking about writing children stories but haven’t decided.

  8. Gale Stanley
    · June 24th, 2011 at 3:22 pm · Link

    Thanks Becky! My grandkids are all readers and they’ve been begging me to write a children’s story. My head just doesn’t go there, all those years of reading romance, horror and sci-fi, I guess. I tell them they can read my books when they’re 21, but it’s a long way off and kids are not patient. lol

  9. Dr. Charley Ferrer
    · June 24th, 2011 at 3:40 pm · Link

    Thanks Gale for sharing your insight.

    And Lindsey K…have to chuckle at your comment, “A five paragraph love scenes can take days to get right.”

    I guess in the end, love scenes on paper as in actuality are better when they take a while. *smiles*

    Live with passion,

    Dr. Charley Ferrer

  10. Diane Sadler
    · June 24th, 2011 at 7:47 pm · Link

    A great sex scene is very important and must be well done, Thanks for your post today!

  11. shadow
    · June 24th, 2011 at 8:13 pm · Link

    Hot topic! lol I love it. Thanks for sharing.

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