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Mary Hughes: How do you cope when life gets impossible? (Giveaway)
Wednesday, September 27th, 2017

Thank you to Delilah Devlin for having me here today!

Facebook posts come in four flavors—funny, sad, poignant, and informative. I thought those were the only four.

Until recently.

A little while ago, a friend posted, “I’ve been diagnosed with a disease and can’t keep up with all the things I used to do. How do you cope?” I was sad to hear of her condition and wanted to help. So first I read the comments, to see what had already been recommended. And here’s where I learned there’s another type of post, or at least a type of comment. Surprising.

Most of the responses started with, “I meditate.”

At first I thought I’d read the comments wrong, that people were saying, “I medicate”, lol. But no, her Facebook friends and acquaintances, a broad mix of women and men of all ages and walks of life, were recommending meditation, a practice that for decades was primarily associated with Eastern mystics and New Agers.

Why were her friends suggesting meditation? These weren’t yogis or monks. These were regular people, a normal mix of spiritual and skeptic. What could possibly appeal to them all about meditation?

It’s simple. It works.

As an introverted performer, I get stressed a lot. I’ve tried all the cures. Picturing the audience in their underwear doesn’t calm me—with my writers imagination I start putting them in red velvet heart-fronted thongs and plaid boxers, lol. If I’m pitching to an editor or agent, knowing they’re another human being like me doesn’t bring my heart rate down—I might feel comfortable going with her for a beer, but then I start wondering what kind of beer she likes or if she even drinks beer or is more of a wine person…and oh-oh, what if she’s allergic to red wine and maybe we should go out for coffee instead? In the long run I only get more wound up.

Meditation unwinds me. And it must unwind all those commenters, too.

And it’s simple! At its most basic, all you have to do is breathe. I can get rid of a whole day’s worth of stress simply by breathing in for five counts—following the air with my mind. Through the nose, the trachea, filling the lungs. Then breathing out, following the air, relaxing every muscle. Breathing in, slowing the counts, letting go of all the things that bother me. Whatever task that got botched or trial that’s coming, they’ll still be there when I’m done, and I can let it go completely for now. Breathing out, following the air, picturing myself in a place that is perfect peace. Breathing in, following the air. And out.  (Do you feel yourself relaxing just reading this? ☺ )

I do a ten-breath meditation at bedtime. Well, when I say “ten breath” I really mean seven or eight before I relax so much I’m asleep, lol.

So here’s my question for you. How do you cope when life gets impossible?

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2 comments to “Mary Hughes: How do you cope when life gets impossible? (Giveaway)”

  1. Debra Guyette
    · September 27th, 2017 at 9:16 am · Link

    I like to read or use crystals.

  2. Mary Hughes
    · September 27th, 2017 at 3:30 pm · Link

    Thanks to Delilah Devlin for having me here today!

    Debra, reading is a great way to relax <3 I haven't tried crystals…any books or articles you can recommend?

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