The Four Year Rule
Hello! And thanks to Delilah for hosting me today!
Excuse my excessive use of exclamation points today, my book just came out this morning and I’m pretty excited. I mean, I know as an author I’m going to be excited about every book, but this is my first book in my first series, and it’s about something I really love.
I know, looking at me you’d never guess I like a little ink, would you? I knew at a young age, probably around fourteen, that I wanted tattoos. Thankfully I did not share this almost certain knowledge with my parents. They’re still reeling from a very recent revelation that I have tattoos. And by recent, I mean they found out about a month ago, and I’ve had them since I was twenty-one.
There’s something about tattoos, the expression of art and personality on one’s very skin that’s always fascinated me. I knew from an early age what I wanted my first tattoo to be, but at about sixteen, I recognized that I was young and stupid and prone to making rash decisions. Somewhere in that time period I came up with a rule.
The four year rule.
It’s simple really. I have to want a tattoo for four years before I get it. My reasoning has always been that if I can settle on an image for four years with only minor tweaking, it must be something I really want and will be happy with in the long run. A big part of this is also getting an artist who can not only execute what I want but also bring it to live on the skin.
To date I’ve gotten five (or seven depending on who you ask) tattoos. With the exception of one, the four year rule has held steady. The one that was not planned in detail was planned in spirit. I don’t suggest people get matching tattoos or names typically, but my brother and I did get matching tattoos located on our under arm. A very sensitive place!
So what tattoos do I have? I have what’s called a backpiece, one big tattoo that stretches from my hips to my shoulders. A half-sleeve, which is a single tattoo that goes from my shoulder to just above my elbow. My sibling tattoo that’s about the size of my palm. In the picture above you can see my two pair of tattoos. I have Hebrew on each shoulder, and in the hollow on each shoulder I have half of the claddagh. Each tattoo means something. I’m a fan of doing tattoos that mean something or tell a story. It’s always fun to be approached by a complete stranger interested in the stories on my skin. I guess in a way, ink was the first medium in which I published a book.
I have quite a few in the works for the future. I want to get my left half-sleeve done, and a smattering of smaller tattoos, only two of which have met the required four year rule. So who knows, maybe next year I’ll be sporting some new ink?
So what about you? Do you have tattoos? Do you like them? Do you want them?
Tell me about your tattoo dreams! One commenter will win an ebook copy of my book, Under His Skin.
It can never be said that Sidney Bristol has had a ‘normal’ life. She is a recovering roller derby queen, former missionary, and tattoo addict. She grew up in a motor-home on the US highways (with an occasional jaunt into Canada and Mexico), traveling the rodeo circuit with her parents. Sidney has lived abroad in both Russia and Thailand, working with children and teenagers. She now lives in Texas where she splits her time between a job she loves, writing, reading and belly dancing.
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A woman who doesn’t believe she deserves love…
Toe-curling kisses and enough sex to fill a weekend were all Pandora wanted from a fling with her teenage crush. She’s never forgotten how he played the knight in shining armor to her damsel in distress. She’s ready to say thank you in several naughty ways, so long as she can walk away when it’s over with her heart intact.
A man moving on from tragedy…
Brian has no intention of allowing the feisty tattoo artist to leave him after one taste. He hasn’t had enough of her inked curves. The packaging might have changed, but Pandy is the woman he hasn’t been able to excise from his memory. He’s ready to put together a new life, one that includes her. But he’s not the only one vying for her attention. Someone else wants her, dead or alive.
Pandora swirled the glass of Tuaca and downed it in three gulps. The smooth brandy slid down her throat and sent warm fuzzies coursing through her body. She couldn’t get drunk fast enough.
A weight settled against her waist. She squeezed her eyes shut, chanting, No, no, no!
“Why aren’t you up there getting ready for the awards?”
She turned on the stool, keeping one hand on the bar for balance. She should never have allowed the girls to dress her up in the first place. The red wiggle dress fit her like a second skin, and the underwear served only to annoy her. She’d never understood garters.
At least focusing on that distracted her from what Robert had done this time.
disqualified,” she said, slurring her words only slightly.
Brian’s jaw dropped. If she had the coordination, it would have been the perfect opportunity to kiss him, but she didn’t trust herself leaning that far forward.
“I drew the tattoo on you. I didn’t make a stencil first.”
“That’s bullshit.” The way his eyes flashed and arms flexed as he clenched his hands into fists made her a little hot. Then again, there wasn’t anything about Brian that didn’t turn her on. What would her ex-fiancé think if she told him it had been Brian she thought of when they’d had sex?
“Yup. I said that too. The rules are written all vague and shit. Robert and the West Coast Shop assholes pressured the organizers. All of us who drew instead of tracing are disqualified.” If she was able to string that many words together and slur only a little, she wasn’t drunk enough. Turning to the bar, she signaled the bartender for another.
Brian wedged himself between her stool and the next. “There’s got to be someone you can complain to.”
As she reached for her new glass, Brian picked it up first and sniffed.
“That’s mine.” She made a wild grab for the glass.
He caught her wrist, making a shackle of his fingers. “I think you’ve had enough.”
“Have not.” Releasing her hold on the bar, she made another attempt to snag the brandy.
Brian lifted the liquor out of her reach and forced her other arm up while trying to grab her flailing appendage with his fingers. She pitched forward, sliding off the barstool. Her heel fell off the rung and her skirt trapped her legs. Stumbling forward, she winced, already seeing herself sprawled across the floor. Instead, she planted her face directly into Brian’s chest. He wrapped his arm around her waist, squeezing her against his untattooed side.
She wasn’t drunk enough not to want to wither and die from mortification. Placing her hands against his shoulders, she shoved. But she might as well have been pushing a brick wall for all the good it did her. Brian pivoted, putting the bar to her back, and leaned against her. She could feel his hips and the bulge of something else.
“Let go of me,” she growled.
He turned his face away and downed her drink.
“Hey, that was mine.”
Setting the glass on the bar, he wrapped both arms around her. Though she’d been up close and personal with him the day before, that had been in a professional situation. Without alcohol. Slightly inebriated and plastered against his lean chest was a new experience. The urge to lift her chin and kiss his jaw, suck his lips and thrust her tongue into his mouth was strong. She hadn’t been able to put the fantasy of him to rest, but neither could she bring herself to close those final few inches and make it a reality.
Over his shoulder, she glimpsed Butch take the stage, microphone in hand. “Ladies and gentlemen, it’s time to announce the winners.”
Ducking her face, she pressed it to his shoulder. Her back ached from spending yesterday hunched over Brian’s tattoo. She had a tension headache, and now her stomach rolled from the brandy.
“I think I’m going to be sick,” she muttered into his t-shirt.
He said something she didn’t hear and took her hand. As Butch began acquainting the audience with one of the smaller contests, Brian led her through the press of people crammed into the ballroom. Focusing on putting one foot in front of the other, she didn’t question why she was following him. It was nice not to have to sit at the bar by herself. She hadn’t yet been able to face the other girls after her public disqualification. Escaping with Brian was preferable to the alternative.
Exiting from the ballroom-turned-bar, she sucked in a deep breath and squinted in the bright lights of the lobby. Brian kept a firm grasp on her hand, leading her across the foyer to a comfortable nook with contemporary leather lounge seating built against the walls. He pushed her down onto the edge of one of the couches and hovered.
Pandora cradled her face in her hands, her elbows two painful points digging into her knees.
“Can I get you anything?”
“A beer? I’m not drunk yet.”
“I think you are. How about some water?”
“This is tipsy, not drunk.”
Where the ballroom had become stifling with the press of bodies and the pulsing music, the foyer was cool and the music at least muted. She wanted to drink away today, but it would require a greater amount of alcohol than she’d consumed to do more than make her a little loose.
Her gaze focused on Brian’s worn Converse, the way each shoe sported twin worn spots behind the rubber toe where the shoe would crease when he knelt.
“Hey.” The shoes creased and his right knee hit the ground.
Sighing, she straightened and pushed her hair over her shoulder. She’d curled it for nothing. “I’m fine. A little dramatic, but I’ll be okay.”
“Pandora, Pandora, fly away home.”
She whipped her head around and glared at Robert, flanked by her former coworker Juan and a man she didn’t recognize. He had his thumbs hooked into his belt and glared at Brian. She hated how often Robert said her name.
“Fuck off, Robert.” Her voice lacked the heat, the fiery quality of her hatred for him. It took effort to be that mad, and she was beaten down enough not to care.
“Slumming for a new boyfriend, Pandora?”
Her blood boiled. Shoving to her feet, she took two steps toward Robert, jabbing her finger at him. “What? Or go back to being with you? No thank you.”
“Hey.” Brian stepped in front of her, blocking her view. “Back off.”
She peeked over Brian’s shoulders. Robert’s face had transformed from his typical, cocky grin to full-on crazy. His eyes glinted, the pupils larger, his nostrils flared and color high in his cheeks. All he needed was a vein popping out of his forehead to complete the picture. She’d seen him like this before, and he’d demolished a Vespa because it was in the spot where he usually parked.
“Or what?” he said in a low voice that had goose bumps breaking out down her arms.
Looping an arm around Brian’s chest, she pulled him back. She didn’t know what Robert would do, but he was crazy and getting into it with him was not how she wanted to spend the night.
“Let’s just go, please?” She pressed her front to his back, her hand splayed over his stomach. She wasn’t tipsy anymore.
He flattened his hand over hers, rubbing his fingers across her knuckles.
Robert turned his head to acknowledge someone calling his name. Pandora took advantage of the distraction to grab Brian’s hand and lead him to the bank of elevators. She pressed the button and allowed him to push her into the first available lift. She tottered to the far wall, grabbed hold of the bar mounted at hip height and faced the glass. She liked to watch the ground drop away suddenly, as if she were flying. At the first pull of gravity as the elevator rose, her stomach rolled and protested.
She glanced over her shoulder and nodded. “Yeah.”
Leaning back, her back hit his chest. Brian paused and she thought he would step away from her, but he wrapped his arms around her waist. Allowing her eyes to shut intensified the disorientation, but Brian steadied her.
“You can’t antagonize him like that.”
His breath was warm against her neck. “You did.”
“Yeah, well I almost married him. For some reason I get away with fighting with him. I think he likes it. But you? I think he would go berserk.” She knew he would. Though she hadn’t seen it happen to a person, Robert was one small step away from making that leap.
“You were going to marry him?” The disbelieving growl surprised her.
She looked over her shoulder, wanting to soothe her hero. “I was in a bad place the last year I worked for him. I’m not proud of who I was then, and I regret every second I was engaged to that deranged, self-centered dipshit.”
His features relaxed and he leaned against her. Their breath mingled, scented with vanilla and brandy. She could kiss him right now. He squeezed her hip and circled her waist with his other arm to splay his hand over her stomach. The press of gravity lessened as the lift slowed to a stop.
“Where are we going?”
She shrugged. “I already checked out of my room.”
“This is my floor. Come on. I can get you some water.”
They walked hand in hand down the hall, with its pretentious gold-plated sconces and busy patterned carpet. They could be any couple returning to their room together for the night. Brian led her into one of the rooms not far from the elevator, swiped his card and pushed her in ahead of him. The darkness swathing the room was comforting, easier on her eyes. Even when he flipped the lights on, bathing the room in a muted glow, it was better than the harsh glare downstairs. Besides a suitcase sitting on the desk, there wasn’t any evidence he was staying in the room.
“How you feeling?”
She turned to face him. It was like being eighteen again and going back into the piercing room to make out with him, only this time it was actually Brian. As if to remind her it wasn’t a dream, his hand brushed her arm.
Flinching away from the touch, she headed for the armchair next to the window and sank down in it. The curtains blocked out all but two lines of light at the top and bottom. Closing her eyes, she tried not to listen to the rasp of his jeans as Brian walked across the room, following the path she’d taken but much slower. She could hear his breathing and smell the cologne that had rubbed off on her skin the day before. Dropping her head back against the chair, she dug her fingers into the armrest to give them something to do.
Brian was not Robert. He wasn’t like the guy kicked out of his band. He wouldn’t hurt her, at least not physically. But neither was he the kind of guy that dated a girl like her.
Large hands grasped her knees, his thumbs swiping over the fishnets that were already slicing into her toes.
The gentle word might as well have been a command. Prying one eye open, she looked at him kneeling in front of her.
He appeared serious and stark without the long hair. He’d aged, and not in a bad way. “How you feeling?”
“Like shit.” She massaged her temples.
“Want some water? Something for a headache?”
“All of the above?”
The corners of his mouth turned up. “You got it.”
He left for a few moments, then came back with a glass and a package of pain relievers.
“Thanks.” She downed both, folding her hands around the glass. She held it in her lap and stared at it to keep from looking at him. “I should go back downstairs. The girls will be looking for me.” She pushed to the edge of the seat until her knees bumped his chest.
He put a hand on her thigh. She could feel the pressure from each individual finger through the sateen skirt. “Do you think Robert’s going to give you a hard time again? You don’t have to go. You can stay here for a bit.”
Lifting her gaze to his face, she searched him for some sign, some intangible something she couldn’t name. One side of her mouth hitched up and she put a hand against his arm. The muscles tensed under her fingertips. He might be scarred, but he was a strong, virile man. “Was this your plan? Get me up here and see where it goes?”
“What?” He snatched his hand back and she missed the reassuring weight of him immediately. “That’s not what this is about.”
“I’m kidding. Bad joke.” She squeezed her temples with her fingers.
He shook his head, the scowl still firmly in place. “Fuck. If I could go back and erase what happened to you, I would.” He leaned forward, planting his hands on the armrests and invading her space. “I wish I could, because I want to kiss you, but I feel like trash for something I didn’t even do. If that’s not screwed up, I don’t know what is.”
Her heart kicked into double time. A spike of adrenaline overrode the pain between her ears.
She sat up a little straighter. Licking her lips, she whispered, “So kiss me already.”
His face hovered near enough she could see the every eyelash ringing his eyes, the thin scar on his brow and his chipped front tooth. “The problem is, I don’t want to stop with kissing you. But you’re drunk.”
She laughed and draped an arm over his shoulder. “Not really. I had a buzz, but it’s gone.”
Thanks so much to Delilah for hosting me today!!!!!!! (<= see, exclamation points)
This sounds like a wonderful book!! Looking forward to reading it!
Yes, I have tattoos. All have meaning. The two on my fore arms are almost matching yin yangs. Left arm is wolf paw, the right is bear claw. I have both of them as spirit animals guiding me. I wanted more to them, so the tattooist drew (disqualifying???) the medicine wheel design around them.
My first tattoo is a wood cross over my heart. It has a purple sash and a crown of thorns. My husband has the same, but much larger, on his left shoulder.
I have a green shamrock on my right calf, for my mom. Her birthday was St. Patrick’s day. The ink??? Called shamrock from a company called Mom. I HAD TO! :p
On my upper back is a purple butterfly from a very popular series of books. The tattooist redid it just a bit so that in the middle of the wings it now looks like eyes, giving the whole thing the appearance of a face. My oldest daughter and I have that one in common, but hers is blue.
I want MORE! But this year, it is hubby’s turn for new ink. We go in on the 30th for touch ups on the one he got 2 weeks ago. 😉
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BTW, I love your ink! You have great skin for tattoos.
Cool rule, Sidney–I think that with something so permanent and so much a part of YOU, it really makes sense to have a long period of consideration 🙂 And then you can be more certain that what you’re choosing is definitely what you wanted to get. Not that it’s a failsafe, but I do think in the case of permanent art, it helps!
Congrats on Under His Skin! Can’t wait to get reading! (No need to include me in the drawing!)
Wow Stacy, you have quite a collection! I love the stories with each one. The only one of mine that is similar to anyone else’s is a tattoo on my left under arm. My little brother drew it and we both got it done, but he passed out halfway through his so the artist did touch up’s on my sleeve while we waited for him to come around! Have not let him live that down!!!
The four year rule is a good one for me. I really do like all of my tattoos. I sometimes would like to reconsider the size or placement, but meh, I really like them and how individual they are. The down side to the rule is that I have a lot of tattoos waiting to be inked!
First off congrats about your book! About tattoos, I don’t have any yet but have been thinking about it since I was in the army so many many years ago but never just wanted to get one to get one. I always wanted mine to have meaning. I like the idea of the four year plan. Mine is a five year one and there are a couple i have been thinking about fro a couple years now. One of them that I want is a white wolf on a background of a dream catcher since this I just found my spirit guide about three years ago. Still working on the detail I want like feathers and where I want it on my body. The other is two female signs together with the rainbow colors. Been thinking of both about 2 years now. I do like ink but I also think it’s nice if they have meaning to the wearer.
Hi Deb! If you’re serious about those elements, find a local shop and go in to talk to the artists. The good ones will be all about helping design something new and unique for you, and will often have suggestions for what colors work best for your skin tone or areas of the body. They’ll also be able to help guide you where to put things so they’re displayd the best, easily covered up or compliment your shape. I always feel a little bad for the people who do mine. We spend a lot of time talking about the details and how stuff fits together!!!
I love your tattoos we can see in the picture. They really stand out on your skin!
I only have one small tattoo of a dragon on my hip. I have a thing about dragons. Loved it and started looking for another that I felt I could live with.
That ended up being my only tattoo because of medication I have to take for an immune system disease. I’ve talked to the tattoo artist and he suggested waiting until I’m off of it. Still on it! Darn it!
Awe man, yeah that was super smart of you to talk to the artist. I’ve heard some really bad stories about people who don’t think to tell their artists they’re, I don’t know, allergic to laytex or red dyes and end up horribly sick or with bad scars.
I’ve wanted tattoos for a while, but I haven’t had the money to get them, and with my health issues I’m not sure I can handle extra pain right now, either. There’s three I’ve wanted for a while now (can’t remember how long, but I like the idea of a four year rule):
* A triskellion on my left shoulder, inside a circle (perhaps made of Celtic knotwork?)
* A Celtic Tree of Life on my right shoulder, inside a circle (these have to be designed by the same artist as I want them to match stylistically)
And if I can get those two and handle that, I want a Celtic knotwork armband on my left arm. Not a sleeve, but an armband probably 4 inches wide or so, either all around my arm or with a gap in the style of a torc (if I do that, the gap would be where the most sensitive skin would be).
And due to my health issues, I have to be really careful about things, too. I’m taking immunosuppressants to counteract my arthritis, so if the place wasn’t good about taking care of needles, etc., I could be in one world of hurt. As I understand it, that doesn’t necessarily mean I can’t get it done, I just have to be very very careful about where I go, and how well I treat it while it’s healing (and see a dr. ASAP if something starts to go wrong). I recently had my ear pierced and it was fine (actually healed faster than I was expecting), and the place I went also does tats. They were really good about it– insisted on using a hoop instead of a stud (better drainage = faster healing), covering the aftercare treatment, especially once they heard about my meds, and reminded me not to take it out if it did get infected (even if a doctor told me to) because that would trap the infection, etc.
Sounds like you went to a very good place Morgan! They told you all the correct things.
If your doctor says it’s something you can do, and it sounds like you should make your physician part of your decision, and you want the tats, go in and talk to the artists! If you can’t afford it right now, it’s good to at least know your options and what to aim for.
Artists really know their stuff, and it’s important that they take care of their equipment because if they don’t – they are the ones handling your fluids. One of the reasons I selected my first artist was because of her additional training in health and healthcare. They want to do a good job and their best selling point is you. Word of mouth makes great artists.
Definitely. I’m probably going to go back soonish to get my other ear pierced, given how happy I’ve been with this one.
I don’t think I’m in a spot right now to move forward with the tats (especially given that I’m somewhat unsure about a triskellion vs. an awen symbol… pretty much the same meaning, but very different appearance), and I don’t want to tie up their time until I have the funds to go ahead with it. My legal name change takes precedence over my tats right now anyways 🙂
A rule like that is an awesome idea because the last thing anyone wants is a tattoo they regret. I don’t have any tattoos and have never wanted any, but that doesn’t mean I don’t admire them on other people. I’m a bit of a whimp when it comes to needles. My husband recently got a tattoo on his upper arm, and we thought about it and discussed what he should have for months. We both really like it, although none of the family have seen it yet. His mother will probably go into shock…
Congrats on your new release. I loved the excerpt.
Thanks!!! I had forgotten to say, about the yin yang designs…I got the first one at a very low point in my life and I so needed balance. I felt better, but still needed some more. Hence, the mirror image (almost) yin yang/medicine wheels. If you want, you can look me up on FB and see the pics of my arms.
BTW, my husband came up with this: I am the linch pin holding us together. He and I have a matching tattoo, and our daughter and I have a matching one. 😉
I have always wanted to put this picture I have of this delicate fairy with the most beautiful wings on my shoulder and my uncle Mike’s name under it. It would be my tribute to him. It’s one of the last drawings he did for me before he died. I miss him everyday.
An enjoyable excerpt! Thank you for sharing.