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Lynda Bailey: Give Versus Take (Contest)
Thursday, December 4th, 2014

I want to give a super huge THANK YOU to the fabulously talented and amazingly generous Delilah Devlin for hosting me today. To celebrate, I’m giving a lucky commenter his/her choice of any one of my titles + a $5 gift card.

I must confess to being a rabid Delilah Devlin fan since reading Fournicopia in July of 2012. Fournicopia was the first *official* BDSM romance I ever read, and I got seriously hooked on Ms. Devlin’s stories as well as reading – and writing – in the sub-genre. In fact, I just released Grace, the third novella in my Heartache and Hopeful series. These novellas, as well as my full-length novel Shattered Trust, incorporate elements of the BDSM lifestyle.

With the holidays upon us, I’m reminded of the old lesson that it’s better to give than to receive. But what about giving instead of taking? One of the misconceptions swirling around the kink lifestyle – and one that I myself, as a vanilla, was guilty of holding – is the assumption that a D/s relationship is just about the power; about someone taking control away from somebody else. It’s not. There’s a line from the Rihanna song, Stay, which I think lends itself perfectly to the dynamics of a D/s bond: It’s not just something you take, it’s given.

Nothing says it better than that. A submissive gives his/her control to the Dominant – the Dominant doesn’t take it. To be brutally blunt, when a person’s control or power is ripped from them, it’s assault, or worse rape.

That line from Stay became the crux of a pivotal love scene between Grace and Seth. Seth has the choice of submitting to Grace; she doesn’t force him. For one, she can’t because he’s much bigger and stronger. But if even if that wasn’t the case, there’s no satisfaction for a Dominant or Top if he/she has to coerce a submissive or bottom. It’s my understanding that part of the pleasure for the Dominant/Top comes from knowing the submissive/bottom trusts them. Trusts them enough to relinquish their control. And that trust must never be violated.

Are you a reader/writer of BDSM romances? If so, what are your thoughts concerning the nature of a D/s connection? Also, share your favorite BDSM authors – I’ve shared one of mine! And remember, leave a comment for the chance to win one of my titles and a $5 GC…

Thanks again to Delilah for letting me hang out today!

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On the Corner of Heartache and Hopeful…

Revenge is a dish best served cold—and according to Grace Harrington, while wearing three inch stilettos and wielding a flogger. No longer the bullied, nerdy kid she was in high school, Grace is now a take-charge corporate lawyer in Omaha, Nebraska. She’s also a take-charge Top in the bedroom. The last thing she wants to do is go back to the small town of Tatum, but to save a treasured landmark from destruction while exacting retribution on the guy who ground her heart to dust? Hell yes!

Seth Reisner never wanted to leave Tatum. He thought being a country lawyer slash gentleman farmer would be the perfect life. But his agricultural kingpin uncle had other ideas. And when dear uncle foots the bill for law school plus signs your paycheck, you suck it up, alter your plans and move to Dallas, Texas. Now Seth divides his time between litigating on behalf of his uncle’s company and trying to find his “Mrs. Right.” When the opportunity to return to Tatum comes up, he’s grateful for the chance to go home.

Grace and Seth end up on opposite sides both in and out of the courtroom. Grace is determined to get her vengeance while Seth only wants to make up for his unintended past transgressions. When the verdict is read, who will win—and at what cost?

 

GRACE Excerpt:

Grace took hold of his wrists and molded his palms to her breasts. The feel of his calluses tightened her nipples into stiff buds. How does a high-end lawyer get calluses? “Did you like being tied up?”

His body tensed. “Why are you asking?”

She rose up slightly then settled back onto his thickening cock. “Don’t beg the question, counselor. Answer it. Did you like it?”

He frowned and averted his gaze. She lifted off him then kept herself suspended over him with his tip just inside her cunt. He growled and thrust his hips up. She hoisted herself higher to keep him from embedding himself inside her. His fingers flexed around her breasts. He thrust harder, but she stayed out of reach.

“Answer me,” she cooed. “Did you like it?”

His face crumpled with palpable aggravation as the tendons in his neck protruded. “Yes,” he finally gritted out.

“And you’re not happy about liking it, are you?” She kept a nonthreatening tone.

“Not particularly.”

She rewarded his truthfulness by lowering slowly onto his cock. “Don’t you like giving up control?”

“Does anyone?”

“If done right, it can be very freeing. Can you honestly tell me that you didn’t come like a fire hose before?” She circled her hips which elicited a gurgled groan from him.

“No.”

“Then let go. Trust me, baby. I’ll keep you safe.”

She freed his hands. He kept them on her breasts for a long count of five, then slowly raised them over his head…

 

About Lynda:

lbbio pic_edited-1I’ve always loved stories, especially romances. For me the only thing better than reading a romance is writing one. That and drinking red wine while eating dark chocolate.

My romances are full of passion, with heat levels that range from hot to sizzling! I’m proud to have been a 2010 finalist in the prestigious Golden Heart®. Please join me for laughter and love, and where the good guys always win in the end.

I live in Reno with my husband of thirty+ years and our two pampered pooches.

Stalker Links…
Website: https://www.lyndabailey.net
Blog: http://www.lyndabailey.net/category/blog/
Facebook Author Page: https://www.facebook.com/LyndaBaileyRomanceAuthor
Twitter: https://twitter.com/authorlyndab
Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/baileylynda/
Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/6472849.Lynda_Bailey
Amazon Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/Lynda-Bailey/e/B007UQHW9E/

15 comments to “Lynda Bailey: Give Versus Take (Contest)”

  1. Toni Whitmire
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 7:14 am · Link

    I just love your interview and can’t wait to read any of your books and I don’t have a favorite BDSM author yet bibbiesparks@yahoo.com



  2. Mandy Honea
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 8:37 am · Link

    I really like your interview 🙂 i love reading BDSM. From the romance to the kink. thanks for the chance to win. and i cant pick just one there are some great books out there 🙂



  3. Lynda Bailey
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 8:51 am · Link

    Toni and Mandy…
    Thanks so much for stopping by this morning! 🙂



  4. jodi marinich
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 11:23 am · Link

    thanks for the chance. I enjoyed reading all types of romance by find the d’s relationship much more interesting



  5. Andrea F.
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 11:40 am · Link

    Love your interview. I love all my authors and can’t choose a favorite.
    Thank you for the chance!



  6. Lynda Bailey
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 12:33 pm · Link

    Thanks Jodi and Andrea for popping today…’Preciate you commenting! 🙂



  7. ButtonsMom2003
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 12:34 pm · Link

    Thanks for the giveaway. My favorite BDSM author right now (it changes when I read new books) is Roni Loren. Her Loving on the Edge series hooked me from the first book. I haven’t read any of your books yet but Grace sounds really good. Of course, I also love Delilah’s books. Her Delta Heat series was great!



  8. flchen1
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 2:21 pm · Link

    Great post, Lynda! I do read BDSM, but honestly tend towards the “lite” end of the spectrum. I think that whatever level people choose though, that it’s ALL about choice and about trust and communication. The D/s relationship is all about power, and about trusting a partner enough to yield or accept control in ways to please you both/all. Delilah’s stories are fabulous; I’ve also really enjoyed some by Eden Bradley…



  9. Lynda Bailey
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 3:02 pm · Link

    Thanks you ButtonsMom and Flchen1 for stopping by today! 🙂



  10. Melissa Keir
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 7:18 pm · Link

    Wonderful post. One of my favorite authors is Ann Mayburn. She’s given me some wonderful experiences!



  11. Pansy Petal
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 8:30 pm · Link

    Lovely post. I totally agree. It is that trust and “connection” that has attracted me to the genre. Thank you for sharing. Oh yes. Delilah makes my list, but number one is Cherise Sinclair. She was my “first” so holds a special place in my heart. 😉



  12. Lynda Bailey
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 8:38 pm · Link

    Melissa~
    Ann is one of my favs as well. Thanks for stopping by! 🙂



  13. Lynda Bailey
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 8:39 pm · Link

    Pansy~
    Thanks for sharing – I haven’t heard of Cherise Sinclair. Will hafta check out her books. 🙂



  14. Lynda Bailey
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 11:03 pm · Link

    Thanks again to Delilah for hosting me today, and to everyone who commented… 😆
    I’m pleased to announce that Random.org picked Joni as the winner of her choice of any one of my titles + a $5 gift card. Congratulations!



  15. flchen1
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    · December 4th, 2014 at 11:07 pm · Link

    Happy reading, Joni! Thanks again, Lynda!